I Don’t Want Company

It’s finally happened, something I never, ever would wish for: A dear, close friend of mine, whom I’ve known since I was officially a kid, has decided she must leave her marriage.

I am happy to be able to be her guide, to lend my steadying arm, to have at the ready all the things you have to learn as you go through divorce, and then never need again. I hope I can save her some time, some fluster, help her find her way to her answers faster, with less confusion and panic.

I may be an advocate for finding a graceful way to let go in divorce. I may believe that I can help people choose the least damaging path when they fall apart.

But that will never, ever mean that I am blasé when I hear the news of another breakup.

Life is fragile. Handle with care. A moment of silence, please.

The Power of Friends

I know that when I was going through the worst parts of my divorce, I felt not only hopeless, but helpless. And not only helpless, but, impossible to help. Which is a totally different thing. So many friends would say “Let me know what I can do for you,” and my mind would just go blank.

So I wrote a few articles for this website about that (here‘s oand here). And I was asked to write something for the great, smart website wowowow.com, and I chose to write about the power of friends there as well. You can read the article here—and don’t forget to email it to a friend who’s been keeping you in touch with the you you used to be as a way of saying thanks for her silent, but so-helpful, help.