about the book

An emotionally charged story of a divorce that brought the surprising gift of grace.

getFilesJust when Stacy Morrison thought everything in her life had come together, her husband of ten years announced that he wanted a divorce. She was left alone with a new house that started leaking from all sides, a new baby who needed a lot of attention, and a new job in the high-pressure world of New York magazine publishing.

Morrison had never been one to believe in fairy tales. As far as she was concerned, happy endings were the product of the kind of hard work that had moved her to the top of her profession. But she had always considered her relationship with her husband a safe place in her often stressful life. All of her assumptions about how life works crumbled, though, when she discovered that no amount of will and determination was going to save her marriage.

For Stacy, the only solution was to keep on living, and to listen, as deeply and openly as possible, to what this experience was teaching her. And what she learned made her a calmer, wiser—and yes, better—person.

Told with humor and heart, her honest and intimate account of the stress of being a working mother while trying to fix her house and make sense of her unraveling marriage offers unexpected lessons of love, forgiveness, and dignity.

why i wrote this book

getFiles-1I’d been a women’s magazine editor for 16 years when my husband told me our marriage was over. At that point in my life, I’d probably edited, read, written or had otherwise taken part in the creation of no less than 1,000 articles about love, marriage, heartbreak, romance, sex and relationships-so imagine my surprise when my divorce turned out to be a completely different experience from what I’d expected:

It was more about loss than anger.

I was fighting to survive, not to win.

I still cared deeply about my husband, even as he was hurting me.

I wanted to forgive him, and myself, the failure of our marriage, instead of hating him.

And the biggest surprise? Everyone else all around me wanted to tell me why Chris and I didn’t make it. Even if—especially if—they barely knew our story. It was their desire to keep the agony of divorce away from themselves, at whatever cost, that got me listening, in a deeper way, to all that I was living.

And wow, I really cried a lot.

So I decided to write this book, to show the ordinary and ugly truth of having your life turned upside-down by divorce, and then the ordinary and beautiful work of stepping away from the ugly and falling back in love with life.

Photo by Anna Wolf

about the cover

I love the cover of my book. L O V E. To me, the dandelion captures both the “falling apart” part of the book, but also the optimism. I wish I could say I was the genius who came up with the idea, but I’ll happily instead give all the credit to Simon & Schuster for creating this cover all on their own. I’ve had a huge response to the emotional tone of the cover; people ask me about it all the time, which is great. So when Barnes & Noble’s community blogger Melissa Walker asked me if I’d do an interview with her about the cover and how it came to be, I agreed.

You can read the whole interview—and the whole story—here.