I am excited to announce that I will be speaking at a conference all about divorce: how to survive it, smart financial tactics, how to get on your own new path, and more. The conference is called The Start Over Smart Expo, and will be March 31 and April 1, 2012 in New York City. (Click HERE for more info)
In a way, my life has come full circle, because I used to speak at bridal expos when I was editor in chief of Modern Bride magazine back in the ’90s. (The magazine doesn’t exist anymore, and neither does my marriage, but that’s purely cooincidential, I assure you!)
I am really looking forward to my talk at the expo, because it won’t be a speech or a lecture. Instead I’m hoping it will be an exchange, a time for the audience members to share some of their stories and for me to help them think about their divorce differently, in a way that moves them forward, setting them free from staying engaged in the struggles of the past. The session is called “Reclaiming Your Divorce for Yourself,” and that’s the journey that I describe in my book, all those moments where I had to deeply consider what, exactly, it was that was so shameful, hurtful, and damaging about my divorce…. and then decide to think about it all differently. To think about it an opportunity to re-tune my vision of myself, to let go of worrying about what people thought and instead focus on what I thought. That was what I had to do to reclaim my divorce.
What would you have to do to reclaim your divorce, to not make it about what did or didn’t happen in your marriage, and instead make it who you are now?
If you are in the New York City area, I hope you will consider coming to the Expo.
For those of you who can’t, here’s a blog post I wrote for Start Over Smart, which talks a bit more about how I reclaimed my divorce.