A new home

Hello, there, anyone who is out there! I am so happy to announce and show off my new home for Falling Apart In One Piece.com…. My lovely book site had been completely taken over by spambots, and there was nothing I could do to save it, except build again.

That’s a pretty apt metaphor, isn’t it? For a site about a book—and, more importantly, about that moment in life—about rebuilding one’s life from the ground up?

In the years since Falling Apart In One Piece came out in 2010, a lot has happened. Just as I knew it would. I fell in love. Again. My boyfriend moved in with me and my son. Then my parents became gravely ill out of nowhere (healthy in December, both gone by July), I resigned from my post at Redbook, and I set about doing everything I could to help them through their last months, and then to pack up and sell everything they’d ever owned after they were gone.

Gutting times, to say the least. I clung to a lot of the lessons I’d lived in this book: holding on, knowing it wouldn’t always be this dark; remembering that life takes sudden left turns and the grief would lift. But I was also thrown into a more confusing space than even in my divorce, so much of my identity yanked away from me.

And, then, after the first year after their death, I started writing a new blog about rebuilding my life… again. You can find that blog here, at Filling In The Blanks. Fair warning: This blog is intense, as it is me living through all my loss in real time, not one year after I’d realized I’d made it, like the book is. And, of course, it’s also very raw because my boyfriend and I, despite our best intentions, despite our five years together and how much we loved each other, simply could not make it work. The reasons are many, and I could write 10,000 words about them, but as I wrote in Falling Apart, the only reason that matters is because we could not stay together. And yes, it was, and is very sad.

But I am once again doing okay. Though not at all interested in dating again until my son is 34!! And am so happy to have this bright, new, shiny site, where we can all come together and share our own stories of divorce and grief and joy and life and lean toward all the good things that are surely headed our way.

Thanks for stopping by! Please share you story or just sign the guestbook on this page here, and take some time to read about everyone else’s journey through loss. It’s actually very comforting to see how much company there is! More than 600 posts on this site to date! Or read some of the articles I wrote that compress the lessons I learned into 550 words, to share with your friends, or just read for yourself, and leave a comment. There are lots of places to share part of your journey, and I’d love to read it, and provide you whatever company I can.

Very best,