Yes, yes, we know I’m all about trying to help people find a way to let go gently when they are facing divorce. But that doesn’t mean I’m insane or a completely clueless pollyanna. In fact, I try to emphasize all that’s horrible about divorce, because I think staring the ugly in the face is one of the fastest ways to start getting it behind you. (And really, who would want to dawdle in the ugly?)
That said, I know it’s just simply very, very hard to look at someone you love or used to love and say, “I’m done.” But you know what? Call me crazy, but I do think you should do it when you’re looking at them. Or at least sitting next to them. (Chris was sitting next to me on our sofa, not looking at me, when he broke the news.)
Creepy, right? I’m not usually a fan of evaluating other people’s decisions, but in this (anonymous) case, I think I can say: Discuss!