A Blog Beginning

Well, hi there! Welcome to my new blog. I’ve been meaning to get to this for months, but I’ve been on a wild ride for most of this year (and yes, I know it’s November, though, frankly, I can’t believe it).

I thought 2010 was going to be a banner year for me. I was excited to publish Falling Apart In One Piece, as it had taken me many years to live it and two years to write it. But then things went all upside-down for me, with my mother falling gravely ill before the book came out, and then, in a terrifically heartbreaking turn of events, my father went into the hospital exactly seven days after the book was published. I retreated from promoting the book, resigned from my job, and did what had to be done to help my family get through this crisis. You can read a little about it here (and a big thanks to BlogHer for helping me start walking down the road to making sense of it all, a path I am still very much on, frankly).

So after my two brothers and I were able to help my parents through their last days, I took a few weeks for reflection, vacation, quite a bit of crying, and some time to think about what on earth I wanted to do next. And what I decided I wanted to do was to make more of the amazing conversations that I have been a part of since my book came out. And many of those conversations were started by you (both men and women), whether you signed my guestbook or found me on Facebook, to share your story or ask for advice or to urge me to keep writing about the challenges of letting go and the really satisfying work of surviving a hard time. (And yeah, I have a lot to say about that.)

Inspired by you, I’ve decided to start an online community where we can talk about how to move through a divorce, whether you are having a “good” one like I did (with an ex who was trying to help me understand) or you are having a War of the Roses kind of breakup (and if that’s your story, I say, wow, that sucks, I’m sorry to hear it. And yes, I believe you can still find compassion for yourself, if not your ex, to help you not be scarred by all the hate and rancor).

So thank you for being a fan of my book. Thank you for daring to be vulnerable and reach out. And please check back in in the coming weeks as I add features, articles and more. And, of *course* if you have any ideas about what you’d like this site to be, please email me at doingdivorce@gmail.com.